Parenting in this day and age is truly a challenging task. Gone are the days when you just know the kids will listen and follow their parents simply because they are parents. Because of the influx of media, the internet and the changing culture itself, there is just too much information that the children of this era receive and are forced to digest. So parents, especially Mothers, should be conscious of how they are going to parent their children to make them better persons that they can be. Since it is the nature of women to be more nurturing and because children will also naturally cling to their mothers especially in their tender years, mothers have the initial role in becoming the “hands-on” parent. Add to this the reality that today’s mothers also have to work on top of their domestic professions. Thus, this generation doesn’t just need any plain vanilla Moms but Power Moms who not only can balance professional work and their work at home, but also be deliberate effective parents. Whew! One just gets overwhelmed just thinking about it. Is it too much to ask? If you don’t have the skills on the task of parenting it can really be overwhelming. Skills? Do you really need skills to become a good parent? Actually, parenting is a skill that can be learned. However, kids don’t come with a manual when they are born. Thus, parents, especially Moms, should be creative in acquiring this skill so they can hit the ground running as they love to say, in the corporate world. They can acquire their parenting skills by applying what they have learned from their parents, reading parenting books, comparing notes with peer parents, and immersing themselves into parenting itself by becoming hands-on parents at every opportunity. Moms (with the Dads most preferably) are encouraged to attend parenting seminars to be able to know the intricacies of parenting in this generation and acquire some tools to help them in their journey to parenthood.
PowerMoms: A 7-step Guide to Effective Parenting, a parenting seminar geared specifically to working mothers, has outlined central points that should be learned to become effective parents. According to the seminar, here are the 7 “pillars” to make Power Moms:
- Family Visioning – Parents are the leaders of the family, thus, it is important that they have a vision for their family so the family goes in one direction having the same purpose and objective. Having a Vision will propel each member of the family to action – action with a purpose. It was said once, “Vision without action…is just a dream. Action without vision…just passes the time. But Vision and Action…can change the world.” (Joel Barker)
- Knowing the Developmental Stages of Behavior – Mothers should be able to know what developmental and behavioral stage their children are in to be able to know how to appropriately handle situations, how to answer questions effectively, and how to adjust parenting styles depending on the developmental stage of their children.
- Communication in the Family – Communication not just zeroes in on what one says or hears. More importantly, the foundation of good communication is established on how non-verbals are manifested. Power Moms should be able to read in between and even outside the lines.
- Building Self-Esteem – Children with high esteem are happy, productive and most adjusted. Know the importance of self-esteem and how to help kids develop high self-esteem.
- Knowing your Priorities – Parents should know that their priority is not just their children but actually the first on their list should be their spouses. Nurturing the relationship with the spouse is the best gift one can give to their children.
- Positive Discipline – Parents should be comfortable with their authority as parents. This authority is to be used to instill positive discipline. It is here that skills are learned on how to discipline in a positive way.
- Raising Responsible Children – Character formation: this is the parents’ greatest legacy to their children. Knowing what values are important to you, your spouse, your family and society, knowing how to be able to impart them to your children are integral elements of being Power Moms.
All of these pillars mixed with faith, love and hope sprinkled with lots of affection are the key ingredients to make Power Moms. It is a lot but motherhood is a vocation that no matter how daunting, it remains most fulfilling. Happy Mother’s Day to all Moms!
(If you are interested to attend or organize with your friends PowerMoms: A 7-Step Guide to Effective Parenting, you may e-mail your inquiries at firstname.lastname@example.org.)